I was reminded the other day of how scary it is sending your child off to school for the first time, especially one with allergies. I was helping at our school’s meeting for next year’s kindergarten families, and inevitably, the question of allergies was asked. The concern expressed, the fear explained. I tried to give assurance, but not sure how well it was taken.

I remember when my daughter was diagnosed with her nut allergy, she was already in Kindergarten. I think that was actually easier, because I knew she had been fine there all year already. This parent however, was concerned about the cafeteria wanting ingredient lists and information. I don’t blame her. But I also feel be proactive then, instead of being scared. Here is what you do:

• Contact your school now. Write a letter to the administrator, nurse and cafeteria staff. Tell them about your child’s allergy, accommodations, restrictions, symptoms and treatment. A different letter for each would probably be best because each staff member plays a different role. Think about your expectations for each one. If you want your child in an allergy free class, let the administration know that before placement is done. It may be an option at your school, it may not. It never hurts to ask.(look for sample letters in coming weeks)
• Go into the school and talk to these people. You can hand deliver the letters so they can put a face with a name. Talk to the cafeteria staff, go over a menu. I did that and they were so nice and reassuring. Ask your questions. Express your concerns. Learn their protocol.
• When you find out your child’s teacher, write another letter. Present it to your teacher at open house or make a specific appointment to go over it with her.
• Talk with some other parents at the school with kids with allergies. That always helps. They’ve been there and are getting through it.
• Be clear with your expectations. If you want phone calls before any treatment is done, let them know. If you want phone calls before any foods are given in class, let them know.
• Be respectful. Don’t go in with a bossy affrontive attitude. These people are all professionals and your child is probably not the first one with an allergy they’ve worked with. Listen to their advice, suggestions and recommendations. If you don’t like it or agree, that’s fine, and express your expectations, but be respectful and polite. It always works better than going in with a condescending, defensive manner.
• If you have questions, ask. This is your child. Don’t take a back seat, be proactive. It is the school’s job to maintain your child’s safety, and yours to help them do it.

You can do it. You can send your child to school with an allergy and it will be okay. You can do it!